Perfectly Imperfect

Someday, I was talking with my friends about relations and love and how each one of us imagines the perfect wife as a perspective.

one of our friends was in a relationship and we began asking him about his opinion and his degree of satisfaction from this relationship and he talked to us about how life will became more easy with the other party of we simply accept personality defects of the other party.

When I thought about this concept I realized something, that through years each one of us understands that he/she is not perfect and has many points of weakness but why when we think about relations, we search for the perfect girl or the perfect relation.

Then I heard Dr. Mustafa Mahmoud talking about relations and feelings and he had a strong point of view that feelings are volatile and always changes so you simply need to give your mind time to think about any relationship future.

At this time I believed in a concept called "Matching" which for me means that there is no pure love, there is just a likeness level and at this level you begin to give your mind space to match the weaknesses. As an example when someone gets to excited and this is one of his weaknesses, this might help a wife that is too calm and need this excitement as a push. But she should give herself time to think if this matches her needs.

With time, thinking about marriage and relations become more mature to me, as if I have a certain level of likeness and I'm internally accepting her points of weaknesses and also ready to change for her to match her. It’s worth a shot.

Cinema, movies and stories distorted our perspective and how we treat relations and love, and our demands turned into feelings that we saw, heard or imagined but no body treated our relations as a belief.

When we came to this world we had some constants like Allah, Mom, Dad ... etc.

These constants gave us a perspective that is really clear. Whatever happened between you and your mom form example you know that you gonna fix this because your mom have rights on you even if she were wrong.

This is a true example of love, it's unconditional which means you always trying to fix whatever happens and this is how we match ... by simply accept that the other person have rights and I want him/her to stay with me whatever happened.

And from here comes the concept of "perfectly imperfect" in which we know weaknesses of each other but these weaknesses are the reason of our matching. We have weaknesses and accepted it, we treat each other in a mature way that we believe that we meant to each other and our weaknesses are normal.

Who loves will always change for what he/she loves. I want you to share with me how you gonna select your soul mate and how you gonna fix things to make it work.

Share with me your comments please because I'm imperfect too :)